Dear Stephanie: How to Tell Your Family You Want a Smaller Wedding

January 15, 2021
Dear Stephanie: How to Tell Your Family You Want a Smaller Wedding

Written by: Stephanie with Sweetheart Events

Let the awkward conversations begin on how to tell your family you want a smaller wedding…

Whether you’re changing the zie of your wedding due to rules within your county, or are just opting to host a smaller affair, sharing the news with family and friends can be tricky. The most important thing is that you’re on the same page with your partner. This is your wedding and ultimately it’s about what you and your fiancé want.

Once you’re on the same page. Then what?⠀⠀

1. Go through the guestlist!

Make a “Plan A” and then a Plan B just like you did when you first sent out invites. Decide on who is making the cut and stick to that list. Yes, that means some plus ones might get cut but also be prepared that some guests will opt out due to their comfort level of attending any large gatherings at this time.

2. Communicate!

Share this news in advance with your guests that may no longer be able to attend. Remember, this is everyone’s current reality so they will understand. Expect that feelings may be hurt so account for that and acknowledge those feelings if they come up.

3. Keep them involved!

Although they might not make the current restriction guest list, there are so many great ways to keep all of your friends and family involved. Our industry is pivoting with such creative ideas such as the virtual wedding experiences via zoom, hiring livestream partners to avoid any technical challenges on the day or you can always hire a videographer and pay additional for a same day edit to share via email with all of your guests that evening or the following day.

Be sure to check your county, state, or province’s rules for the current limits of attendees. Currently, in Vancouver, BC Canada we are not permitted to host receptions, and ceremonies must be 10 guests max. 

4. Bring the focus back to your marriage!

This day is about you and your union and although many might not be present at the moment, they have a lifetime to support you in your marriage and celebrate you.


5. Party later!

Say “I do” and celebrate at a later date with everyone. Don’t you agree a love like yours deserves to be celebrated twice? We sure think so!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Photographer: Maru Photography
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