When I met with Kelsey and Noah, it was immediately apparent that they were a fun-loving couple. Noah, being a funny jokester prompts Kelsey to giggle and laugh more times than not. While I listened to their ideas for their wedding, a few things were very clear….they love their dog and each other, John Prine, and REALLY wanted a set of King and Queen’s chairs. The couple lives 9 hours away from Sandpoint, so numerous phone calls, texts, and emails were exchanged. As time went on we all worked together to put together an easy going, eclectic mix of décor. It was important to complement what they had already so thoughtfully planned out, and within a few weeks prior to their date, we had everything planned perfectly.
Originally Kelsey and Noah shied away from doing the first look, but after rethinking the beautiful setting it was decided that they would do it, and it was lovely. This Venue on the shores of Lake Pend Oreille River gives so many options for a first look, it was hard for them to choose. The dock made the cut, and it was perfection, complete with happy tears and lots of kisses! Before too long they were walking down the aisle to the song, In Spite of Ourselves, by John Prine.
Cool crisp air, wicker, velvet, wood, jewel tones, and moody deep colored florals all made for a lovely backdrop for this eclectic wedding. It is important to add items of significance to your wedding, which is exactly what Kelsey and Noah did. Whether it be a handmade bar by a family member or converting the family VW Bus into a photo booth, I suggest doing it! These are the things that will make you smile when remembering your wedding day. Fortunately, North Idaho provides a truly remarkable setting for any style, and this bohemian-vibe carefree wedding is a perfect example of just that.
– Idaho Vintage Rentals, Lucky 7 Prop Co.
The Selis’ Story
I was designing a dear friend’s wedding materials and attended a crafting party with a group of her close friends. All I remember is walking into her apartment and seeing him. Years of being annoyingly single, I immediately wrote him off, “He’s cute, but what on earth would make him any different from the other guys I’ve dated?” Fast forward through that wedding, dating other people, my trip to Thailand, and there we were: going on coffee dates, seeing movies, holding hands, playing cards, braving the winter together, and voila: love. We went out for New Year’s Eve 2016 and woke up in 2017 fully committed to each other. Watch out world, we were going to try this out.
We moved in together that March, made career moves, and started to build a comfortable little life full of inside jokes, laughter, and light. Maybe we moved a little fast, but just maybe we didn’t. His father died unexpectedly at the end of that April. Our relationship was new, but I realize this was either going to be the thing that held us together or push us far, far apart. Noah’s grief was my catalyst to learn how to put myself aside to become the woman, the friend, and the partner we needed to heal. We learned how to really listen, to communicate, and to let space into our lives. We didn’t control each other. We let ourselves grow. We discovered how to be advocates for each other and for ourselves. We adopted our dog, Charlie and moved into a house with a yard.
We took off to Spain. It was the lovely Bill Murray that said, “If you have someone you think is the one, take them and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all over the world, to places that are hard to reach and hard to get out of. And when you land at JFK and you’re still in love with that person, get married.” Little did I know that’s what was happening. Our second New Year’s Eve together was just as charmed as the first. It was simple. It was us. We got all dressed up. I wore a velvet gold dress. He wore a button down. We went to dinner and out on the town. We were at the same bar that I realized I wanted to be committed to him the year prior. He showed all of our friends the ring when I wasn’t looking. Countdown. 3…2…1, my best friend asked me to take on life together forever. Through tears, toasts, and yeses, we kissed all through the New Year among so many other beautiful couples in love.
We planned our wedding in nine months! Waiting too long felt very off-brand for us. We chose to celebrate on the Autumn Equinox, September 22, 2018. Nothing felt more right about choosing forever on the changing of seasons. The wedding was kept close. Celebrating and honoring the communities we come from and love so much was a huge priority for us. Our lovely photographer has been a friend of mine for a decade. His uncle played and coordinated the ceremony music. His family created the food. His sister and mother’s friend baked the cupcakes. Our cake, flowers, and beautiful props were created, arranged and coordinated by local artists.
I designed the invitations, signage, crafted the decorations with my closest friends. We built our head table, the beer bar, the altar. My wedding dress reminded me of my grandfather. I made Noah’s ring with the help of one of my bridesmaids. From a planning standpoint, all I can honestly and sincerely suggest is to fully represent your relationship during the day. Do not feel the need to be perfect, or take on someone else’s opinion of what should or shouldn’t be done. Something will always go wrong, whether it’s the weather, or forgetting the license, or not setting up fully. Be present. The day is about you, and your person. Nothing else really matters when it’s all said and done. Noah and I have always agreed that life is about choices. Choosing love, choosing kindness, choosing adventure and choosing each other. Choosing each other every day we wake up. Vowing to be the embodiment of the love that we have. However, my starry-eyed heart believes something in the universe drove us towards one another, paved the path, and opened the doors.
Call us crazy, but love is always something to choose forever.
– The Bride and Groom, Noah and Kelsey Selis