From the bride, Kathryn: We wanted to throw a party for our friends and family to thank them for supporting us as a couple and as individuals and for teaching us how to love ourselves and one another. We wanted our ceremony to honor what we consider sacred while remaining true to our laid-back style. We opted for John Prine instead of scripture and doctrine.
Instead of walking down the aisle, we entered along the acequia, a communally managed irrigation ditch common to Northern New Mexico. We walked in together to honor our equal partnership free from traditional gender norms. We followed our parents, siblings and closest friends to the archway to honor the joining of our families.
Before walking down together, our photographer, Alicia, recommended that we have a "First Look" session. This ended up being one of the best decisions of the day: a moment to be together in shared intention before the whirlwind of people and activities.
In the months before the wedding, many friends helped us fold paper cranes for our décor. When we saw the paper cranes strung up at the wedding, it reminded us of the support, care, and creativity that our friends provide in our lives.
We are fortunate that one of friends is Emily Calhoun, the florist for our wedding. She is a farmer, florist, and the business owner of Floriography Flowers. Kathryn's mom, aunt, and some friends joined the Floriography team in their workshop two days before the wedding in order to learn a little about flower arranging and prepare the vases for the table. We (Kathryn and Thommy) had grown drought tolerant rattlesnake beans and blue corn in our garden and asked Floriography to incorporate it into the décor. Even the bouquet featured stalks of blue corn.
Our cake was made by Walter Cloud, another talented friend of ours. He is a student and teaching assistant in the Culinary Arts at Navajo Technical University. We asked him to incorporate a myriad of disparate ingredients, including ginger to honor Thommy's Japanese heritage and red chile and blue corn to honor our Southwestern home. Walt's creation was extraordinarily delicious and beautiful.